The Lost Artform of Thank You

Jan 11, 2019

I’ve talked about being thankful in the past, and here is a short episode about just that. The Lost Artform of Thank You really to me is as much about changing the future as it is identifying our past. For many we’re born with it, say thanks everywhere we go, always appreciative of what we have. For others, they coast.

Today the show is all about the phrase ‘Thank You’ including a funny Urban Dictionary description of the term. Enjoy.

Transcription of ‘The Lost Artform of Thank You’ by Otter.ai

0:00
Hey everybody and welcome to the next edition of UNHINGED with me Steve Lichtman today man we’re going to talk about being thankful and saying thank you an art form that has been sorely sorely last over the last I don’t know couple years maybe a decade it’s something for me that drives me absolutely crazy when I’m out and about in my daily life and I’m seeing people just completely devoid of gratitude and thankfulness in in what they do and listen Who am I to tell you right I’m just some random dude on the planet but at the end of the day of all of us random dudes and do that’s on the planet do something a little bit better will have a better planet. So let’s talk about this a little bit.

0:44
First of all, how about the definition of Thank you, you know per the standard definition it is the word Thank you or the exclamation Thank you is a polite expression used when acknowledging a gift service or compliment or accepting or refusing an offer an example thank you for your letter.

1:08
Yeah, pretty easy. Now of course the noun version of it would be an instance our means of expressing facts once again about gratitude and being thankful.

1:24
A great example would be: Lucy plan a party as a thank you to the nurses. Easy stuff, man, this isn’t anything that we should even need to talk about or have explained. Sadly, that’s my opinion, the least. I mean, we should all be grateful for what we have and what we do and say thank you when somebody does something, but more times than not, I’ll I’ll be somewhere I can be online at the store. And the person ahead of me will you know, put the person working in there in the retail position totally out for everything that they’re asking. 

1:59
And then just being right a credit card and and walk away?

2:02
No, thank you know, thanks. No, have a nice day. May Have a nice day. That was it was a whole t shirt for a while. There was a whole movement of Have a nice day. But thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2:17
Is it really that fucking hard to say that and to mean it? Because if you’re not thankful for when you’re out and about in your day in life? why should anybody be thankful for you?

2:34
What are you doing that so superior to everybody around you that you want to be thanked, if you do something well, or appreciated or given a raise or a bonus or a high five or be the person that wins the team lunch for everybody else? Whatever it may be your day to day routine.

2:55
Yeah, I had a friend that works at Home Depot, they used to give badges, he would give exceptional service, he would help people and they would be so appreciative that they would right into the Home Depot headquarters. And what is the data like Atlanta, Georgia or something, and they would give him badges that if he collected enough of them, he would receive a bonus. So they

3:19
rewarded

3:21
people giving great customer service, which is the other side of Thank you, right? I mean, you say thank you, because you’ve had a good experience, you don’t just say thank you, for the sake of saying it. That means nothing that it’s hollow, but you say it when something’s good. And, you know, part of what I do every day is about the customer experience there with, with what I do with work. It’s all about making clients you know, happy and what they do, and making sure that they they get the experience they’re expecting, they get the handling they need. Some need more than others. That’s just part of life. That’s human nature world different. Some people, you can just kind of set in one direction and give them directions and off, they run. Other people need their handheld. But at the end of the day, you know what happens at the end of every one of my calls. And it’s really interesting, it could be something that’s cultural, being a New Yorker working with all these all the time, they thanked me at the end of every single phone call. So if I have 20 calls in a week, I will be thanked at the end of all 20 calls, no exceptions. And in my day to day, every single place I go to, I say thank you. Every time my daughter gets something if she slips because she’s young babies are baby sick. And I forget things and not always gonna remember, sometimes we’re excited than the moment. And that’s totally cool. Because I know she’s super sweet, very thankful as gratitude all the time. But it happens. We all miss it. And then I just give a little poke me shoulder, Liss, Liss, what do you guys say, and then she’ll stop. And she’ll realize like, Oh, whoops, thank you.

5:03
And that’s a small little thing in life.

5:10
That makes a huge difference in impact in somebody else’s day.

5:14
Now, flip it to the other side,

5:17
say, like, for instance, when I’m working, and people thanking me, I’m appreciative of it, I, you know, listen, I could spend anywhere between a half hour to an hour and a half on a phone call with somebody. So when they thanked me for my time, support and knowledge at the end of the call, I do appreciate it. Because I’m going to be there either way. So if it ends and a half for people hanging up and running away, and doing whatever that will, you know, that’s always an awkward feeling. And it happens, you know, that’s life, it happens from time to time. But more times than not, and the norm is somebody saying thank you, at the end of a conversation, which feels good, makes you happy that you did something that was appreciated that the other person showed gratitude and gratitude and appreciation, there’s a huge part of what I talked about with my, you know, my coaching work, and it’s just a lost art form, it seems, and it shouldn’t even be an art form, this should be the standard form.

6:13
So the next time that you go to a store and you purchase something, look the person in the eye and say, Thank you,

6:20
it’s not going to kill you.

6:23
It’s not going to obligate you to a three hour conversation with them, you’re not going to have to trade business cards, or Instagram handles or anything else like that. You could just continue living your life without a minute and just say, thank you and make their day a little bit better.

6:42
And yours, too, because now you’re the person that Thanks everybody, and shows me appreciation, gratitude, I could tell you this outright, in the restaurant business,

6:50
it goes a long way

6:53
because we’re regulars at the same restaurants that we get like takeout from what we sit down at. And it’s like, we’re royal when we walk in, because we say thank you for everything we say, please. And, you know, generally, we just show appreciation for everything that’s going on around us where we’re outward a meal, you know, work with our families, and we have a good time we’re smiling, we’re enjoying ourselves. And how can you possibly not be thankful at the end of a scenario like that? I mean, that’s, to me, it’s just a natural thing. You know, it’s interesting, when we’ve got a I’ve got a team of people that work with me, and when they do any single task, but they complete

7:33
I thanked him at the end of it every time without fail. Nobody else does this like I do. I’m the only one in the entire company that does it. And it’s just because that’s my personality. And that’s what I believe, is if somebody does something for you, you simply say, thank you. So listen, let’s, let’s change gears a little bit. that’s a that’s a lot talking about just two words. Really, if you think about it, it’s sad that it needs to be said, because we could probably do this for an hour and then go back and forth if I had a guest or two on and we had a room full of folks that we could go back and forth about it. We can do this for hours. So let me go back and forth with something else out there.

8:08
We all know about urban dictionary Yeah, so Urban Dictionary, and I love it. It’s there’s always hilarious stuff. It’s the only place where you can get examples as wonderful as what I’m about to read to you. I just wanted to share these with you because when I was googling Thank you ironically the first thing that comes up is in Ariana Grande video ground day ground I don’t know what is she had she had drinker she a singer I don’t know it’s that tiny girl that Bill Clinton was staring at at one of the conferences last year where he was checking her ass out the entire time anyways, she’s got a song Thank you. So that completely ruined my search hits. And I had to continue onward and specifically go to like the dictionary sites and Cambridge and and of course Urban Dictionary where everybody needs to go to for any phrase in life. So let me read you the top definition of thank you from Urban Dictionary it says thank you a phrase not often heard nowadays much like for give me and I am a virgin an example that they use this thank you for farting in my face doctor and that was posted by the wonderful person bastardized bottom burp September 20 2003.

9:28
And that is a glorious way to really look at it it’s not often heard nowadays you know the other parts whatever it’s it is what it is you know they have a legitimate definition of how it should be used in its its proper form. But of course we know that it’s not used properly anymore and it’s when you go through Urban Dictionary it’s some of its real some of the I’m going through it right now. Rain Man says a phrase which expresses expresses gratitude the example being thank you for wiping my ass so I would like to say to everybody here Thank you for listening today to this podcast. 

10:26
It is short it is sweet is about only thanks the next one up by special request from my my dear old friend Jeffrey will be I have diarrhea the story

10:38
I’d love to get one of our other childhood best friends Ryan into this. But he is anti technology for whatever reason he has chosen to live a life like Kane from kung fu where he just walks the earth and does not login anywhere. He does not even have accounts anywhere only online account. He has an email address that is at Yahoo, which the only reason he has a Yahoo address is because you know, an AOL service was turned off at his house when his family stopped using it. His email that he had with their account was defunct and that was the end of that so he moved to a free yahoo email that he reads maybe once a month

11:25
it’s not a reliable way to get to him. I could text him but there’s no chance in hell he’s gonna come tell the story I mean, you know what, I’m going to text him right now. After signing off and seeing if I can get him to join he was a member of the epic day where a grown man looked at me and said Steven

11:46
I must go I have diarrhea alright so there we have it everybody. That’s the episode for today. As always, you can go to I am Lichtman on Instagram on Twitter on Facebook. You could also search for unhinged with Steve Lichtman. That is ice adding out and as my buddy Ryan always says will will do his official Sign Out of all things that he has ever done over the years sending letters, handwritten letters that he sends constantly

12:16
love and lizards, guys love and lizards.

I’ve talked about being thankful in the past, and here is a short episode about just that. The Lost Artform of Thank You really to me is as much about changing the future as it is identifying our past. For many we’re born with it, say thanks everywhere we go, always appreciative of what we have. For others, they coast.

Today the show is all about the phrase ‘Thank You’ including a funny Urban Dictionary description of the term. Enjoy.

Transcription of ‘The Lost Artform of Thank You’ by Otter.ai

0:00
Hey everybody and welcome to the next edition of UNHINGED with me Steve Lichtman today man we’re going to talk about being thankful and saying thank you an art form that has been sorely sorely last over the last I don’t know couple years maybe a decade it’s something for me that drives me absolutely crazy when I’m out and about in my daily life and I’m seeing people just completely devoid of gratitude and thankfulness in in what they do and listen Who am I to tell you right I’m just some random dude on the planet but at the end of the day of all of us random dudes and do that’s on the planet do something a little bit better will have a better planet. So let’s talk about this a little bit.

0:44
First of all, how about the definition of Thank you, you know per the standard definition it is the word Thank you or the exclamation Thank you is a polite expression used when acknowledging a gift service or compliment or accepting or refusing an offer an example thank you for your letter.

1:08
Yeah, pretty easy. Now of course the noun version of it would be an instance our means of expressing facts once again about gratitude and being thankful.

1:24
A great example would be: Lucy plan a party as a thank you to the nurses. Easy stuff, man, this isn’t anything that we should even need to talk about or have explained. Sadly, that’s my opinion, the least. I mean, we should all be grateful for what we have and what we do and say thank you when somebody does something, but more times than not, I’ll I’ll be somewhere I can be online at the store. And the person ahead of me will you know, put the person working in there in the retail position totally out for everything that they’re asking. 

1:59
And then just being right a credit card and and walk away?

2:02
No, thank you know, thanks. No, have a nice day. May Have a nice day. That was it was a whole t shirt for a while. There was a whole movement of Have a nice day. But thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2:17
Is it really that fucking hard to say that and to mean it? Because if you’re not thankful for when you’re out and about in your day in life? why should anybody be thankful for you?

2:34
What are you doing that so superior to everybody around you that you want to be thanked, if you do something well, or appreciated or given a raise or a bonus or a high five or be the person that wins the team lunch for everybody else? Whatever it may be your day to day routine.

2:55
Yeah, I had a friend that works at Home Depot, they used to give badges, he would give exceptional service, he would help people and they would be so appreciative that they would right into the Home Depot headquarters. And what is the data like Atlanta, Georgia or something, and they would give him badges that if he collected enough of them, he would receive a bonus. So they

3:19
rewarded

3:21
people giving great customer service, which is the other side of Thank you, right? I mean, you say thank you, because you’ve had a good experience, you don’t just say thank you, for the sake of saying it. That means nothing that it’s hollow, but you say it when something’s good. And, you know, part of what I do every day is about the customer experience there with, with what I do with work. It’s all about making clients you know, happy and what they do, and making sure that they they get the experience they’re expecting, they get the handling they need. Some need more than others. That’s just part of life. That’s human nature world different. Some people, you can just kind of set in one direction and give them directions and off, they run. Other people need their handheld. But at the end of the day, you know what happens at the end of every one of my calls. And it’s really interesting, it could be something that’s cultural, being a New Yorker working with all these all the time, they thanked me at the end of every single phone call. So if I have 20 calls in a week, I will be thanked at the end of all 20 calls, no exceptions. And in my day to day, every single place I go to, I say thank you. Every time my daughter gets something if she slips because she’s young babies are baby sick. And I forget things and not always gonna remember, sometimes we’re excited than the moment. And that’s totally cool. Because I know she’s super sweet, very thankful as gratitude all the time. But it happens. We all miss it. And then I just give a little poke me shoulder, Liss, Liss, what do you guys say, and then she’ll stop. And she’ll realize like, Oh, whoops, thank you.

5:03
And that’s a small little thing in life.

5:10
That makes a huge difference in impact in somebody else’s day.

5:14
Now, flip it to the other side,

5:17
say, like, for instance, when I’m working, and people thanking me, I’m appreciative of it, I, you know, listen, I could spend anywhere between a half hour to an hour and a half on a phone call with somebody. So when they thanked me for my time, support and knowledge at the end of the call, I do appreciate it. Because I’m going to be there either way. So if it ends and a half for people hanging up and running away, and doing whatever that will, you know, that’s always an awkward feeling. And it happens, you know, that’s life, it happens from time to time. But more times than not, and the norm is somebody saying thank you, at the end of a conversation, which feels good, makes you happy that you did something that was appreciated that the other person showed gratitude and gratitude and appreciation, there’s a huge part of what I talked about with my, you know, my coaching work, and it’s just a lost art form, it seems, and it shouldn’t even be an art form, this should be the standard form.

6:13
So the next time that you go to a store and you purchase something, look the person in the eye and say, Thank you,

6:20
it’s not going to kill you.

6:23
It’s not going to obligate you to a three hour conversation with them, you’re not going to have to trade business cards, or Instagram handles or anything else like that. You could just continue living your life without a minute and just say, thank you and make their day a little bit better.

6:42
And yours, too, because now you’re the person that Thanks everybody, and shows me appreciation, gratitude, I could tell you this outright, in the restaurant business,

6:50
it goes a long way

6:53
because we’re regulars at the same restaurants that we get like takeout from what we sit down at. And it’s like, we’re royal when we walk in, because we say thank you for everything we say, please. And, you know, generally, we just show appreciation for everything that’s going on around us where we’re outward a meal, you know, work with our families, and we have a good time we’re smiling, we’re enjoying ourselves. And how can you possibly not be thankful at the end of a scenario like that? I mean, that’s, to me, it’s just a natural thing. You know, it’s interesting, when we’ve got a I’ve got a team of people that work with me, and when they do any single task, but they complete

7:33
I thanked him at the end of it every time without fail. Nobody else does this like I do. I’m the only one in the entire company that does it. And it’s just because that’s my personality. And that’s what I believe, is if somebody does something for you, you simply say, thank you. So listen, let’s, let’s change gears a little bit. that’s a that’s a lot talking about just two words. Really, if you think about it, it’s sad that it needs to be said, because we could probably do this for an hour and then go back and forth if I had a guest or two on and we had a room full of folks that we could go back and forth about it. We can do this for hours. So let me go back and forth with something else out there.

8:08
We all know about urban dictionary Yeah, so Urban Dictionary, and I love it. It’s there’s always hilarious stuff. It’s the only place where you can get examples as wonderful as what I’m about to read to you. I just wanted to share these with you because when I was googling Thank you ironically the first thing that comes up is in Ariana Grande video ground day ground I don’t know what is she had she had drinker she a singer I don’t know it’s that tiny girl that Bill Clinton was staring at at one of the conferences last year where he was checking her ass out the entire time anyways, she’s got a song Thank you. So that completely ruined my search hits. And I had to continue onward and specifically go to like the dictionary sites and Cambridge and and of course Urban Dictionary where everybody needs to go to for any phrase in life. So let me read you the top definition of thank you from Urban Dictionary it says thank you a phrase not often heard nowadays much like for give me and I am a virgin an example that they use this thank you for farting in my face doctor and that was posted by the wonderful person bastardized bottom burp September 20 2003.

9:28
And that is a glorious way to really look at it it’s not often heard nowadays you know the other parts whatever it’s it is what it is you know they have a legitimate definition of how it should be used in its its proper form. But of course we know that it’s not used properly anymore and it’s when you go through Urban Dictionary it’s some of its real some of the I’m going through it right now. Rain Man says a phrase which expresses expresses gratitude the example being thank you for wiping my ass so I would like to say to everybody here Thank you for listening today to this podcast. 

10:26
It is short it is sweet is about only thanks the next one up by special request from my my dear old friend Jeffrey will be I have diarrhea the story

10:38
I’d love to get one of our other childhood best friends Ryan into this. But he is anti technology for whatever reason he has chosen to live a life like Kane from kung fu where he just walks the earth and does not login anywhere. He does not even have accounts anywhere only online account. He has an email address that is at Yahoo, which the only reason he has a Yahoo address is because you know, an AOL service was turned off at his house when his family stopped using it. His email that he had with their account was defunct and that was the end of that so he moved to a free yahoo email that he reads maybe once a month

11:25
it’s not a reliable way to get to him. I could text him but there’s no chance in hell he’s gonna come tell the story I mean, you know what, I’m going to text him right now. After signing off and seeing if I can get him to join he was a member of the epic day where a grown man looked at me and said Steven

11:46
I must go I have diarrhea alright so there we have it everybody. That’s the episode for today. As always, you can go to I am Lichtman on Instagram on Twitter on Facebook. You could also search for unhinged with Steve Lichtman. That is ice adding out and as my buddy Ryan always says will will do his official Sign Out of all things that he has ever done over the years sending letters, handwritten letters that he sends constantly

12:16
love and lizards, guys love and lizards.

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